Comments on: Just keep swimming http://acid-stars.com/2009/06/06/just-keep-swimming/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=just-keep-swimming don't try too hard to understand Thu, 02 Sep 2010 05:05:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Allie http://acid-stars.com/2009/06/06/just-keep-swimming/comment-page-1/#comment-3223 Allie Thu, 02 Jul 2009 14:25:04 +0000 http://acid-stars.com/?p=192#comment-3223 @Clint: We'll see what actually happens when I decide that I want a child. When I last talked with my mother about this, she urged me to try getting pregnant before considering adoption. ("Otherwise," she said, "you'll be <em>picking</em> a child -- which is kind of selfish.") I've always been told that no one is <strong>ever</strong> ready for children, no matter how much planning one puts into it. It's just a matter of wanting children. @Beth: Wow. Way to warm up your parents to the idea of a new grandchild. But I guess there's nothing better than presenting them with a kid. Who doesn't love children!? And I totally understand what you mean. I think I just need to think about whether I really <em>want</em> children -- the hows and whens will take care of themselves. @Clint: We’ll see what actually happens when I decide that I want a child. When I last talked with my mother about this, she urged me to try getting pregnant before considering adoption. (“Otherwise,” she said, “you’ll be picking a child — which is kind of selfish.”) I’ve always been told that no one is ever ready for children, no matter how much planning one puts into it. It’s just a matter of wanting children.

@Beth: Wow. Way to warm up your parents to the idea of a new grandchild. But I guess there’s nothing better than presenting them with a kid. Who doesn’t love children!? And I totally understand what you mean. I think I just need to think about whether I really want children — the hows and whens will take care of themselves.

]]> By: Beth http://acid-stars.com/2009/06/06/just-keep-swimming/comment-page-1/#comment-3202 Beth Tue, 30 Jun 2009 16:06:30 +0000 http://acid-stars.com/?p=192#comment-3202 "If there’s one thing I’m worried about with the adoption route is my family being supportive of my decision." A natural feeling. My parents learned of our adoption when they came over for Thanksgiving in 2003 and we presented them with their new grandson who had arrived from China the day before. I just never could figure out how to tell them and so eventually the facts spoke for themselves. "I’m working really hard to build a life for myself with which I can be happy — forever." Ahhh, but life does surprise us, no matter how much we plan... “If there’s one thing I’m worried about with the adoption route is my family being supportive of my decision.”

A natural feeling. My parents learned of our adoption when they came over for Thanksgiving in 2003 and we presented them with their new grandson who had arrived from China the day before. I just never could figure out how to tell them and so eventually the facts spoke for themselves.

“I’m working really hard to build a life for myself with which I can be happy — forever.”
Ahhh, but life does surprise us, no matter how much we plan…

]]> By: Clint http://acid-stars.com/2009/06/06/just-keep-swimming/comment-page-1/#comment-3087 Clint Sat, 20 Jun 2009 15:54:32 +0000 http://acid-stars.com/?p=192#comment-3087 I understand your thoughts on this. My wife and I are 25, 26 and we still do not have children of our own. Like you say, it would be nice, but then again we do so many things that are difficult enought just owning two large dogs, let alone a child. You can't leave your child in a closed off room for 5-6 hours when you want to go do something. And over population. I'm always talking about that. So many kids out there that need a home, why not raise one of them instead of creating a new one. I will want to have my own children, but I fully support your decision as well. Your more brave than I. I understand your thoughts on this. My wife and I are 25, 26 and we still do not have children of our own. Like you say, it would be nice, but then again we do so many things that are difficult enought just owning two large dogs, let alone a child. You can’t leave your child in a closed off room for 5-6 hours when you want to go do something.

And over population. I’m always talking about that. So many kids out there that need a home, why not raise one of them instead of creating a new one. I will want to have my own children, but I fully support your decision as well. Your more brave than I.

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